Dating
Meet singles across New Zealand who already understand life with an STI. Browse profiles, filter by what matters to you, and start conversations at your own pace.
Positive dating and support in New Zealand
Meet Positive Singles in New Zealand
An STI diagnosis can change how dating feels, but it does not take dating off the table. This independent New Zealand guide introduces PositiveSingles, a long-running community where people living with herpes, HIV, HPV and other STIs can meet, talk and support each other.
You are not alone
A diagnosis does not define your worth — or your love life
Sexually transmitted infections are far more common than most people realise. Many New Zealanders will encounter an STI at some point in their lives, and conditions like HPV and herpes are a routine part of sexual health, according to Health New Zealand.
What often hurts most is not the diagnosis itself, but the worry about what comes next: Who will want to date me now? When do I bring it up? Will I have to explain myself again and again?
A community built around shared experience can take that weight off. When the people you meet already understand, you can skip the hardest conversation and start with who you actually are.
What the community offers
More than dating
PositiveSingles brings together dating, friendship and peer support in one place — so you can use it in whatever way fits where you are right now.
Friendship
Not everyone arrives ready to date. Many members simply want friends who get it — people to talk with, laugh with and share everyday life with.
Community support
Community conversations and shared experiences can make a real difference in the early months after a diagnosis, and long after.
Privacy controls
Choose what appears on your profile, who can view your photos, and when you are ready to share more with someone.
Your own pace
There is no rush. Start by reading, join conversations when it feels right, and meet only when you feel comfortable.
Local connections
Connect with people across Auckland, Wellington, Christchurch, Hamilton, and communities throughout New Zealand.
Explore by experience
Find the corner of the community that fits you
How it works
From reading this page to meeting people, in four steps
Learn
Read about how the community works, what it offers and how privacy is handled — no sign-up needed to understand the basics.
Join
When you are ready, follow our link to the external PositiveSingles service and create a free account there.
Create Your Profile
Share as much or as little as you like. You control your photos, your details and who can see them.
Connect
Browse members, send messages, join community conversations and take things entirely at your own pace.
Privacy and safety
Stay in control of your story
No dating website can promise complete anonymity or absolute safety — and you should be cautious of any that claims it can. What a good platform can do is give you meaningful controls, and what good habits can do is keep you safer while you use them.
Control what you share
Decide which photos and details are visible, and to whom, before you start talking with anyone.
Go at your own pace
There is no timeline. Chat for as long as you want before sharing personal details or meeting in person.
Block and report
Use blocking and reporting tools the moment someone makes you uncomfortable, for any reason.
Meet safely
Choose public places, arrange your own transport and tell a friend your plans for first meetings.
Across Aotearoa
Explore your city
Local herpes dating guides with practical privacy and first-meeting advice for four New Zealand centres.
Herpes dating in Auckland
Harbour-side walks, waterfront cafés and New Zealand’s largest dating pool.
Explore Auckland
Herpes dating in Wellington
Compact, creative and café-rich — easy to meet without the small-town overlap.
Explore Wellington
Herpes dating in Christchurch
Garden-city calm, riverside strolls and a growing, forward-looking scene.
Explore Christchurch
Herpes dating in Hamilton
River paths, gardens and a relaxed Waikato pace for getting to know someone.
Explore Hamilton
Guides
Dating and communication guidance
Practical, stigma-free guides written for New Zealanders — from deciding when you are ready to date again, to planning the disclosure conversation.
New Zealand resources
Trusted health and support organisations
These are external New Zealand health and support organisations. This website does not provide medical services or advice — for anything health-related, please talk to a qualified professional.
Health New Zealand
Official information on sexually transmitted infections, testing and safe sex.
Visit Health NZNZ Herpes Foundation
Evidence-based herpes information and support for New Zealanders.
Visit herpes.org.nzBurnett Foundation Aotearoa
HIV prevention, testing and support services across New Zealand.
Visit Burnett FoundationBody Positive
Peer support and advocacy for people living with HIV in New Zealand.
Visit Body PositiveSexual Wellbeing Aotearoa
Sexual and reproductive health clinics, information and education nationwide.
Visit Sexual Wellbeing AotearoaFull resource directory
Testing clinics, counselling, urgent help lines and condition-specific organisations.
Browse the directoryYou deserve connection — on your own timeline
Join a community where your diagnosis is understood from the first hello. Browse, chat and meet people across New Zealand at whatever pace feels right.
Explore PositiveSinglesYou will leave this website and register on the external PositiveSingles service. We may receive compensation if you join through our links, at no extra cost to you.